When to ask if someone is pregnant

When we found out that I was pregnant with twins, we were overwhelmed. We had so many questions and worries and no answers yet. I was only 7 weeks pregnant. My husband and I decided to keep the news to ourselves, close family only for now until we know that our two babies will be okay. A twin pregnancy can come with its own complications, we wanted to be sure. I went on with my days as usual. Physically, I was adjusting to all the first trimester symptoms. Emotionally I was stressing myself out with worries as on how we will manage financially, risks of twin pregnancies, what kind of mother would I be and much more. At work I seemed fine but once I was at home I felt helpless and overwhelmed.

So when my little bump was suddenly discussed online I was quite surprised. Journalists called my assistant and people at my work for confirmation. With cameras shoved in my face, a reporter asked me straight up if I was pregnant although beforehand I only agreed to be interviewed to speak about Christmas plans. To be deceived and cornered like that, I felt quite betrayed. I asked her in return what the current status of her vagina was.

The security guard at my apartment building asked me only a week later the same question. For what? Just to satisfy his own curiosity.

People I have never met and heard of were suddenly very interested with the inside of my uterus. It angered me. It is no one’s business what is going on in a women's uterus and it is not okay to ask a woman if she is pregnant or not.

What if she is trying but can't get pregnant?

What if she had a miscarriage?

What if she is on IVF and hoping that this time is the lucky one?

What if she hasn't told her partner or family yet?

What if there are problems with the pregnancy or the baby?

What if she is not pregnant at all and you just fat-shamed her?

Is your curiosity really worth it? It took me my own pregnancy to realise how hurtful these questions can be for a woman. I also want to apologise at this point to anyone who I might have offended in the past with my over curiosity. I understand now that when a mama wants to share her news, she will.

A pregnancy announcement is a moment where a mama gets to share her joyful miracle with the world. It's her moment. Let's not take that special moment away from anyone.

I asked myself how I can avoid feeling cornered and angry at people for putting words in my mouth or spreading wrong information. That was one of the reasons I decided to make this website where I can share my opinion and my point of view. And of course my own pregnancy announcement.

Have you had your own experience where you felt like your privacy was invaded? What is your opinion on this matter? I would love to hear some stories from others! Feel free to leave us comments or email to us!